A MUM has taken to Mumsnet after realising that her young tot prefers playing with the nanny more than with her.
In a post shared on the popular parenting forum, the stay-at-home mum explained that she felt as if her two-year-old daughter ''loves her nanny'' more than she does her mother.
According to the anonymous Mumsnet user, the nanny-housekeeper visits their home every weekday from 9am until 3pm, and will be responsible for a number of tasks.
As well as tackling cleaning around the house, she will do all the laundry, cooking lunch, ironing to name a few - whilst the only thing the mum will take care of is ''cooking dinner'', she shared in .
The mum said: ''So essentially I'm with my daughter all day, I try to plan really fun things for her like playdates, go to various playgrounds, soft play, feed the ducks, ride her bike, go to kid-friendly museums.''
On occasions where she needs to visit the doctors or ''get something done'', which happens around once or twice a week, the nanny will stay alone with the tot for four hours and usually take her to the nearby park.
But despite still spending time with her two-year-old toddler, the mum felt like the kid preferred her nanny instead of her own mum - and will even demand her parent to leave her alone with the childminder.
''It feels like my daughter loves the nanny / housekeeper (call her NH for short) more than me and I can't understand why.
''If NH is home when we are, she will prefer to play with NH over me and actively tell me "go away mummy" if I walk into the room they are playing in.
''If I'm dressing her for the walk she will request that NH does it instead.''
She went on: ''I don't stop them and it's now turned into them playing together just after her nap because if I ask whether she wants to go outside, DD [Dear Daughter] will say no she wants to play at home with NH rather than go with me to the park or do anything with me...''
The post, shared just a few days ago, has already racked up a whopping 300 replies from fellow Mumsnet users, who shared their thoughts.
But although the mum may feel worried, many insisted that there was no need for concern - and that there may be a number of reasons behind her tot's behaviour.
One thought: ''I'm assuming that NH doesn't do any discipline and all the other boring parent stuff.
''She's just fun so I don't think it's that unusual she wants to play with her.''
Another agreed, adding: ''if she falls over & bangs herself & still wants you then you've not lost it Mothering wise.
''Just relax & be grateful you picked the right person for your child.''
A fellow mum chimed in: ''Would you rather leave your child with someone she has no fondness for?
''It takes a village to raise a child well and throughout her life, there will be other people who are important to her - not just you and her other parent. I think adjusting to that now would be a benefit to you and to her.''
However, there were also a few who advised the stay-at-home mum - also branded a ''lady of leisure'' - to ''get rid of the nanny'' altogether.
This, the mum hit back saying, was not an option, as she truly appreciated the housekeeper.
''She's a nice person, genuinely seems to care about DD, she's good at cleaning etc so it feels a bit weird and mean to replace her because DD likes her too much.''
