I slept with my brother-in-law on holiday – I feel SO guilty but I have my reasons for cheating on my husband
A WOMAN has confessed she's riddled with guilt after cheating on her husband with her brother-in-law.
It all began when she jetted off to Mykonos with a small group to celebrate her brother-in-law's 40th birthday.
Although the holiday started off great, things took a strange turn when she found herself alone with her sister's husband one evening.
""I have been married to my husband for 12 years. 10 of them without sex. What the relationship lacked in sex, it compensated for in affection and intimacy," she explained on Reddit.
Despite having a lot of love for her husband, she admitted she would often wake up in the middle of the night in a "panic" thinking she may never have sex again.
But, besides that, the anonymous woman explained that her marriage is generally a happy one.
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"We have money and we have great careers, I’m 39 and the thought of living without my husband for some chance at sex is unbearable to me.
She noted that the reason they haven't been sexual together for so long is because her husband struggles with erectile dysfunction and is "unwilling" to try anything else.
"My husband is 50. He is not going to start having sex with me now. He said that he loves me and that nobody will love me the way he does. He said if I left I will maybe have sex but never be loved," she added.
So, when the drinks started flowing, this confession came out, leaving her brother-in-law shocked.
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"My longing just took over me and when he touched me I let him," she explained.
The pair ended up sleeping together twice while on holiday with their partners, but after leaving the sun-soaked holiday, the guilt caught up to the woman.
"I hate myself for what I did but I don’t know what to do now," she wrote.
I love my husband. How can I tell him why I did this? Especially because this is what he knows I long for.
"The only thing he can’t give me. And my sister-in-law and her children? I can't ruin their lives."
She went on to ask fellow Reddit users for advice and said she's currently figuring out if she should simply live with the guilt or divorce her husband but not fess up to the cheating, or at least not admit who she cheated with.
One said: "You're both somewhat at fault here. The cheating is 100% on you. YOU made that choice and now it is on YOU to deal with the consequences.
"That being said, you BOTH made decisions and acted in ways that got you to this point.
"Based solely on what you have posted it doesn't even seem like you guys tried to figure out a solution to the sex problem and you took it upon yourself to resolve it."
A second had similar thoughts, they said: "It sounds like you stayed and continued drinking in the hopes something would happen, the alcohol was just an excuse.
"The fact that you did it more once is very telling, the details are damning to say the least."
But someone else had a different idea and told the woman to "Live with your guilt."
"Never tell anyone," they continued, "It would be selfish of you to try and alleviate your own guilt by ruining everyone’s lives, which it will surely do.
"Also, for what it’s worth, your husband sounds like a controlling asshole. He won’t have sex with you but verbally abuses you about leaving and no one else will love you? That’s horses**t.
"You might want to consider divorce unrelated to this and find someone who gives you everything you need."
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it's normal to know each other's passwords and use each other's phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
says: "If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful."
"You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something."
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
"If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don't want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag."
"Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it's an easy way to get caught out," says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner's libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: "Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren't there before."
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
"To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven't walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating," warns Aaron.
