I’m so hot I have to wear a FAKE wedding ring to fend off men – it’s worked for 16 years and I don’t miss the attention
AN INFLUENCER has claimed that she wears a fake wedding ring to ward off men as she gets too much-unwanted attention without it.
Ju Isen says she was being approached by potential suitors in places like the gym, supermarket, pharmacies and even the swimming pool.
In a bid to quell the bombardment of men, the 39-year-old has taken to wearing bling on her ring finger to send a clear message: she is not available.
“I was tired of the constant approaches – it was nonstop, even when I clearly wasn’t interested,” Ju, who is currently single, explains.
“So I put on a simple ring on my left hand, and it was like hitting a mute button.
“Even if it’s not real, it is a deterrent to being approached.
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“It has worked for years.
“It is just visible enough to keep people from coming up to me.
“The way guys look at me changed as soon as I started wearing it, and they now think twice before saying anything.
“It has influenced how I’m treated in places like the gym or bars.”
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She recalled one particular moment when the strategy worked perfectly.
Ju said: “I was at the pharmacy and a guy started making small talk.
“But the second he saw the ring, he stopped immediately.
“He asked if I was married, I just smiled, and he said ‘Got it, sorry,’ and walked away.
“It was respectful, and I got to keep my peace.”
The influencer says she started wearing the gold piece of jewellery at just 23 years old.
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Ju said: “I still wear it to this day and it’s become part of my routine.
“It’s not about tricking anyone – it’s about setting boundaries.
“It’s a quiet way of saying, ‘I’m not available for this kind of interaction’.
“And the most interesting part? It still works.”
Ju says she took a break from wearing the ring a couple of years ago, though she found the attention wasn’t as strong as in previous years – something she puts down to dating apps.
She said: “Men today no longer have the initiative they once had. It’s like they’re unmotivated.
“Even the bad pickup lines that used to annoy me have become rare. Nowadays, everyone just waits for a match on a dating app.
“No one makes eye contact, no one approaches naturally anymore - and that makes relationships feel more empty and mechanical.”
But she continues to wear the ring either away, to avoid flirty men.
Ju, who is from Brazil, added: “People sometimes ask if I miss the attention, and honestly? I don’t.
“At least not that kind of attention.
“I prefer peace, if a man is really interested, he’ll have to go beyond the obvious.
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“And if I’m interested too, I’ll just explain I’m not actually married.
“The ring has become more than just an accessory, it’s a filter.”