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Devastated mum-of-two reveals husband’s suicide note told her what to do next

Emma's husband Dan, an agricultural contractor, battled with anxiety and depression for years

A GRIEVING mum-of-two revealed her husband's suicide note which gave her inspiration to change the lives of others.

Emma Picton Jones, 27, broke down in tears after reading her partner's last letter after a builder discovered his body in a vacant house.

 A husband left his wife a letter before he committed suicide instructing her to help others
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A husband left his wife a letter before he committed suicide instructing her to help othersCredit: MEDIA WALES

Emma's beloved husband Dan, and agricultural contractor, had battled mental health issues for years.

He wrote: "You couldn't help me, but you could help someone else."

She told BirminghamLive that in that morning she realised: "I can do that."

Dan had fought his anxiety and depression for years, but in July 2016, he could no longer cope with his illness and drove to his childhood home.

 Emma Picton-Jones was 22 when she met the man she would go on to marry and have two kids with, Mali and Trystan
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Emma Picton-Jones was 22 when she met the man she would go on to marry and have two kids with, Mali and TrystanCredit: MEDIA WALES
 Heartbroken mum Emma broke down in tears when she read the letter from her late husband
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Heartbroken mum Emma broke down in tears when she read the letter from her late husbandCredit: MEDIA WALES

Suspecting Dan had left the home in Pembrokeshire, Emma said she had a 'gut feeling' he had gone to his mum and dad's house.

Panicking, she drove to the house but found two police cars outside.

She knew exactly what had happened.

According to Emma, their relationship had been full of ups and downs, but Dan’s ups and downs were more dramatic.

 The DPJ Foundation is campaigning to get people talking about their mental health
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The DPJ Foundation is campaigning to get people talking about their mental healthCredit: MEDIA WALES

He’d been struggling with his mental health, especially anxiety and depression, for a long time and had first approached a doctor for help at 21 - long before he met Emma.

The pair had met at a rugby tournament and swapped numbers, this was the start of their relationship that would lead to marriage and two children - Mali and Trystan.

“Looking back and reflecting on it all, it was always an issue," Emma says.

“I was constantly overcompensating to try to avoid anything being any worse than it was - that went on for a long time."

Emma set up her own mental health charity specifically for farmers and named it DPJ foundation. With donations and the funeral collection, it opened its bank account with £8,000.

The charity's aims are to get people involved in agricultural talking about mental health.

Farming has a disproportionately high suicide rate. Time to Change Wales says at least one farmer with a mental health problem commits suicide each week in the UK.

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WHERE TO GET HELP

If you, or anyone you know, needs help dealing with mental health, the following organisations provide support:

  • CALM, , 0800 585 858
  • Heads Together,
  • Mind, , 0300 123 3393
  • Papyrus,, 0800 068 41 41
  • Samaritans, , 116 123

 

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